Why Men Need to Realise Porn is Different from Sex (“Real” Sex)

Sex in porn vs reality

Some important differences men need to know and why

At some point in our lives we have all watched porn, whether it was with our buddies as a weird ritual of adulthood or with our significant other. Nowadays, thanks to the power of the internet, nearly everyone has access to it and regardless of how conservative some families may be and/or how we were raised, we were drawn to it either for pleasure or simply out of curiosity. For both men and women porn provides an “aid” for release and for teenagers that grew up without having a sex education, it is as close as they can get to it. But does it really have anything to offer to them? When was the last time a porn clip mentioned contraceptive methods or how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases? Even though some may agree that it is nothing more than art, much more people agree that it is as realistic as a typical Hollywood movie, if not less. Here are 5 signs that provide some insight in the matter and you can decide for yourself.

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Sex isn’t a 5 step program

Although if you believe what porn industry says, you may think it is. Step one, you meet a total stranger. Step two, you flirt for a few seconds. Step three, you get naked and you already know how the next two steps go. This is as realistic as shooting with a gun and never have to reload, Hollywood I’m looking at you! Frankly I don’t expect to see real life interactions in a porn film, but what about the people that get sucked in to this world and are nurtured? Boys may have their confidence ruined since no girl will agree to have sex with them in an instant and girls will feel objectified when every male sees them as a sex toy. And if you find yourself thinking you are thick skinned and such trivial matters do not concern you, what about the actual sex scenes? Who in their right mind chooses to switch from five or ten or maybe even more positions in the span of ten to fifteen minutes? After a while you may notice that most of the times, they go through the same positions in the exact same order like some sort of a ritual or the “proper” way to do it. I won’t even mention how most porn videos end. I mean, come on, does the woman have to go and have a shower after each and every time a man orgasms?

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To circumcise or not to circumcise

Have you ever noticed that almost every time we see men circumcised? Not to mention the fact they all look like they just came back from the gym. Sure, an athletic build is appealing but not everyone of us has bulging muscles or shave our entire body, let alone having had our foreskin cut. Well then, if that is how a modern age man should look like, then I guess I have to get my club and head back to my cave. And don’t even get me started on how women look like in porn. Perfect body, perfect hair, a pretty face and always horny. I can’t really remember the last time I met one of those in real life. Well maybe because their entire image is fabricated just as their male partners. Don’t believe me? Well, you can always make a quick search online and see how your favorite female porn star looks like without any makeup. And in many cases, you may find how she looked like before her plastic surgeries. Not so breathtaking now, eh? No wonder most women wear makeup all the time and man are anxious about their penis, and both of them are stressing out about their body.

Everyone is always ready, willing and able

Well, OK. In reality, there are times when a couple is filled with passion and they both want to have sex as soon as possible. Teenagers and people in their 20’s, mainly I’m talking about you here. But even then, there are times when one of you may not be in the right mood, what then? Fun fact, women are not always waiting for you to suddenly arrive, sometimes completely naked, ready for some fun in the bedroom. Porn has the solution for that as well. Playfully force her! In retrospect that doesn’t seem nice, does it? You both choose to be together and you have to respect each other. Think about it, were there not times when you were just to tired, elsewhere preoccupied or maybe just not in the mood? Sex is a fun game, not a chore.

And one more thing. Looking at each other and getting naked seems to be the norm when it comes to porn, but were did all the foreplay go? Hugging and kissing when it comes to something more romantic and maybe just kissing and undressing each other when it comes to something more wild and passionate. They seem to skip all of that and be all mushy and hard from the get go.

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Men always have orgasms

Erm… Not really. I mean, there are guys that last way too long, sometimes they don’t even have an orgasm before playtime is over. Does it mean they don’t enjoy sex as much as the guys in porn that groan and yell? Is there something wrong with them or are their sexual partner is somehow incomplete and flawed? Well, they do exist, they enjoy it as much as the next guy but they just can’t reach a climax as fast as porn dictates.

Some men have greater endurance than others, the same way some have orgasms too soon. Stamina and personal endurance aside, there are times when alcohol, drugs or prescription medicine will play a factor preventing climax. Other times, he may be a bit too nervous or eager not to let his partner down and the anxiety simply prevents them. Some researches have shown that apart from chemical and psychological reasons there is one more thing to consider. Overexposure to porn and too much time spend masturbating to it. That may seem odd, but over time the body gets accustomed to manual stimulation and interaction with another human may not lead to climax. Just relax, find the reasons preventing it and remember, a guy doesn’t have to climax in a specific time frame or every time in order to enjoy it.

Bondage, threesomes, role-play, sex toys

OK, porn industry has it all. But that doesn’t mean that every guy out there has all, some or any fetishes. I can’t thing of a guy that has a romantic relationship with a girl and thinks it is okay to invite his friend over for a threesome. There is a furies category in many porn sites, but how many men out there have a wolf costume in their wardrobe? Or maybe a whip? Handcuffs? The same goes for all the other categories as well. When it comes to porn, anything goes. For example if a group of friends go out for a drink and they spot a cute girl then you can be sure they will end up having an orgy. Or if a guy goes to deliver a pizza and a single woman opens the door, sex is the proper way to pay. Not everyone has that kind of fantasies and it raises a question. Do all women have all of the above fantasies? After all, gender aside, we are all the same species, everyone is just a human being. Sure some people will want to spice up their love life and try a few different things and may or may not decide to adopt these new practices. But that doesn’t mean that if you met one kinky guy that likes BDSM, all the rest will definitely think the same way as him. Try to think about every person you meet individually, each one has his own preferences. Just because I love chocolate cake doesn’t mean that the next person you date will be thinking of eating one.

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And lastly, what about the penis size? In many videos you have to wonder how the woman managed to walk naturally after facing the Hulk. Having a bodybuilder body with a battering ram hanging between his legs is an unrealistic standard to reach for most men and definitely not what all women seek as their partner. But where have all the average guys went? It’s not easy to find a real looking man with a real body when surfing through porn. All in all is it okay to draw inspiration from porn? Sure, why not. Maybe a few positions and some tricks. But that is all you can really get from it. Expecting a scripted and willing sex scene with anyone or everyone you meet in real life is unrealistic at best. Now go out and find a partner, if you don’t already have one, and respect him or her. Humans are not a sex toy!

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